07/25/2014: Cheers to our 10th month, my love. Thank you for being so patient and understanding, for consistently making me the happiest girlfriend and for the unconditional love you give. I love you so much, @aljenaraneta ♥
Happy birthday, daddy! I wish you more blessings, and more years to come in life. I’m glad you like our gifts, they may be small and simple but they come from the heart. I hope you stay as funny and loving as you are now. We love you so much. ♥♡ @henmont
Why do women always have to compare and compete with each other? Shouldn’t we support and empower one another instead of pitting ourselves against each other? Being measured up to one person is where our insecurities breed. I feel like it’s wholly important to remind myself to never look at one…
Happy birthday my favorite photographer @bnwe, who is as deep and quiet as I am :) I wish you more blessings soon, especially with your career and endeavors related to your passion. (I wanted to greet you by using your photo this time that’s why I took this from your profile. I hope it’s okay. Heehee)
Congratulations to my bestie @patttiiihhh for passing the Nursing Licensure Exam! And congratulations to your very smart boyfie, Bernard Kyle Icamen for reaching top 3 in the country sa board exam! I’m so proud of you both, grabe! All the hard work’s paid off, Pat! Wishing you all the best in life. I love you, Pattootie! ♥ :*
I waited long last night. I was pissed off and already very hungry. It took him so long to come (little did i know he went somewhere to pick up a surprise for me) I was already impatient, I told him I’ll go home. The moment I stepped out, I saw him going in and he was holding the pretty bouquet of red roses. He flashed a big smile and gave me the roses when I approached him. On our way to the restaurant, he cried and I asked why. He said, “I’m just so happy right now….I’ll never let you go” and then gave me a kiss on the forehead. I have the sweetest boyfriend. What more can I ask for :’) ♥ @aljenaraneta #blessed #love
June 25, 2014: Best confidant.
We keep complaining that they’re all the same and some don’t even want to be in a relationship with anyone anymore because of that one big scar the previous person left. I was one of them, I generalize them after how many heart breaks. But then one person came into my life and changed the way I see things now. Whenever I hear girls complaining about boys who don’t appreciate or don’t treat them right, I feel sad for them (they shouldn’t settle for anyone less or anyone who don’t know their worth) but at the same time, it gives me a bit of a reflection right there, that I am blessed with a great confidant in life. I have never complained why he isn’t this or that. He’s the best and I couldn’t ask for more.
So how do I know more if he’s one great boyfriend? Honestly, words are not enough to explain it. I saw Jasmin Tan’s post “21 Signs You Have a Great Boyfriend” online. I cried while reading this because he fits in every sign she mentioned. I didn’t just cry because I realized I’m glad I have a great partner but I also cried for the fact that I’m so thankful that God has made our paths crossed. I’ve prayed for someone like him to come into my life because I didn’t want to go through another heart break. I told God that I’d wait no matter how long I’d have to, just for someone like him to come. I just left a prayer and I’ve never expected after that. I just went on with my life and now here he is, consistently making me the happiest, and pouring me with such unconditional love. I had to go through those heart aches and had to let go of some people in the past to make way of someone better. Indeed, he’s someone better. He’s such a blessing and a difference in my life.
He is your number one fan. He is the first one to congratulate you when you passed all your subjects…He may not carry cheerleading pompoms, but he makes you feel that you are a superstar.
Check. I remember him always cheering me up back in college whenever I felt really stressed out with school works. He would go after where I was to help me with my school projects regardless of the time. He would congratulate me whenever I get high grades (which really gave me more motivation). He’s always present to support me morally and physically, not just with my school works, but also during important events of my life. He was there during our thesis defense to support me; he was present on my first ever PROM, also on the recognition of honorific students with my family, and during my graduation. He has been such a supportive boyfriend even after college – from finding and getting a job to almost all the events of my life.
He would always think I’m the best and would always remind me that I don’t need to put much effort because I’m beautiful the way that I am. It’s unbelievable. I would always hesitate and disagree. But I then I realized, if he believes in me so much why shouldn’t I believe in myself as well?
I’m really glad that he knows my worth thus he never fails to treat me like a queen. He’s such a gentleman. He’d offer his hand when we go off the jeepney, and like I said, he consistently makes me happy.
At times other guys wouldn’t want their girlfriends to do what they want because they’re scared of what might happen, like putting their relationship to risk. But he’s different. He’s so supportive in everything I want to do and with my passion. He pushes me to reach my dreams, to push certain goals and to do what I really want to do. He would always think of what’s best for me.
It’s selfless love. And I wouldn’t want to lose that.
Even during your losing moments, he will still be very proud of you. He will cheer you up and tell you you’re still the best even though you failed to achieve an award you were aiming for or got defeated on a competition. Even if you feel like a pathetic loser, he will make you feel like a winner.
He’s so like that. When I feel insecure and left out, he would always remind me that I am beautiful. He believes in me and my potential so much, and for that I feel that I should believe in myself as well. He finds a brighter side in every difficulty I face in life. He’s such an inspiration and not to mention, a good mood booster.
He does not fail to text and call you. Whether they are “good morning” and “good night” messages, or a regular reminder for you to eat your breakfast, dinner and lunch. Also, he texts/calls you even though he is with his friends. It may not be like your usual exchange of texts or length of conversations, but then he will make it a point to update you about how he is.
You seem to have a personal doctor. He knows your health conditions and restrictions. He has also memorized the medicine or whatever you need to take when you feel sick. And when you do, he takes care of you. But even if he is not beside you, you will still feel his care and he will always wish that you get well soon.
We communicate a lot. We update on each other’s lives without pressure. And yeah, he never misses out the sweet good morning and good night text messages. Proof is in my inbox. Heeee. We’re really close but not in a way that we’re too clingy towards each other or controlling.
It’s unbelievable to hear us saying that we give each other time for other priorities in life because it seem like we’re literally together almost every day. But we give time for our family, friends, work and hobbies. For instance, whenever he’s out with his friends, I give him the freedom to enjoy it but he does multi-tasking anyway, he sends text messages while having fun with his friends or he’s busy playing his favourite Xbox games. And when I don’t reply, he calls and checks up on me if I’m okay or if I’m busy (because he gets worried if I don’t reply). He updates me regarding what he’s up to even when I’m not asking or demanding for it.
He would always check up on me. He’d ask if I already ate breakfast or have taken my medicine. If not, he’d sound mad and he would insist I take it. I actually like that. It’s so cute when he gets mad at me at times like that because it shows he cares.
And when I’m sick or down, he’d make sure I feel better. He would do anything in his power to cheer me up or make me feel okay.
He hates it whenever you cry. He feels really terrible. He feels like he is the worst guy on the world. And he will do everything just to wipe away the tears on your eyes.
It’s a tough one because I’m one sensitive person. I sometimes cry whenever we both fight. But when he sees me cry, his softer side comes out. He doesn’t let a fight or a misunderstanding to go over a day without getting resolved. He prefers to sit and talk rather than act immature.
Whenever I deal with difficulties and I cry it all out and find his comfort, he would wipe my tears and tell me not to worry because he’s there for me. I need not to worry because his comfort usually works on me - he wouldn’t just give me warm hugs, but he gives words of wisdom and encouragement as well.
A bird? A plane? Superman? No. He is just your guy. He is your unmasked superhero, your angel in disguise. When someone does something wrong to you or terribly hurts your feelings, the bitch mode in him suddenly switches on.
That is so true! Like I always say in my previous posts about him, he’s my knight in shining armour. He’d be very willing to go through a fight for the one he loves.
He does not get angry with you when you are too busy. He understands well the nature of your work, he cheers you up when you feel so damn tired and when it is possible, he gives you a helping hand to make your tasks easier.
Inspiration—he gives you so much of this. Whenever thoughts of giving up on your dream bothers you, just thinking of him will make you want to aspire and strive further.
Go back to number 1 and 3. Those items will explain these as well. Again, he’s not controlling. He gives me the freedom to do what I want even if sometimes he does not understand it, but he would just support me anyway.
And yes, he’s an inspiration. He’s one of the reasons I continue moving forward.
He is your biggest support system. He makes you feel good when you feel so nervous the day before your thesis defense. He gives the comfort you need whenever you feel like the world is against you. He takes you somewhere when you feel bad. No matter how hard the problems you are facing, he will convince you that you are strong enough and you can do it.
He’s the cheerleader among all, the best in particular. He gives me so much strength. Even just by the fact that I have him beside me, I have all the strength in the world already. Yes, I have to exaggerate that. Hahaha. But seriously, he’s a stress reliever; all the sadness and tiredness are gone whenever his presence is around, especially when I get to hear his voice.
Religion is never a BIG issue between the two of you. Yes, you may argue about it a little or it may ignite ‘mild’ hard feelings, but then it only comes once in a blue moon. Also, it has never put your relationship at stake because you understand each other.
He’d go the extra mile, even before our relationship went official. I didn’t want to settle for someone who isn’t fit to be a long-time partner. I had standards that I wanted him to accomplish, and one of it was that he has to have faith in the Lord. He’s not as religious as I am but I appreciate his efforts on slowly getting his faith back, one step at a time.
He trusts you and he assures you that you can trust him too. You cannot deny that both of you get jealous at times, but at the end of the day, you still know that you are his only one. No matter how many girls admire him, you are confident that they can never take him away from you.
We both get jealous, yes. Because well, it is normal. If not otherwise it will surely worry me. We get jealous but we don’t take it seriously (well it depends on the situation). It’s usually just for the sake of being affectionate or malambing.
It’s cute that he gets jealous whenever guys stare at me like they have such intention. He either kisses my forehead or my hand, or he gives a tough stare back at the guy. ^_^
He never gets tired of telling you how much he loves you. He doesn’t just tell you it every day, but every hour if possible.
He reminds me numerous times every day and every hour actually (except at hours when we’re asleep of course). And yes, he never gets tired of telling that.
Actions speak louder for him too. He does not just say that he loves you, he shows it. He holds your hand, brushes your hair, massages you, hugs you, kisses you, puts his hand on your shoulder, brings you home, buys you food, and every little thing he can do just to make you feel loved.
One of the many qualities I love about him is that he’s a man who exerts effort big time. He proves through actions, not just through words alone. He does many things and would go the extra mile…just all of the above. If I will have to mention everything he has done for how many months so far, I may have to write a separate article for that. There’s just too many to mention.
You do not feel ‘required’ to give him gifts every time it is your monthsary/anniversary. Yes, you really love giving him presents and he appreciates that, but then, if you really cannot, it does not matter with him.
He’s very appreciative and not materialistic. Anything that comes from the heart, he accepts it regardless of the size or how it looks like. He doesn’t demand but instead he pours out different kinds of gifts for me – from a small love note or letter to a dinner date treat.
He makes you feel beautiful. He tells you how cute you are and how his thoughts about how your new dress suits you perfectly. You may not be the hottest chick in the campus or the one with the prettiest face, but then in his eyes, no one can exceed your loveliness.
He does not fail on doing that. I love the fact that he minds the small things thus he sees even the smallest changes not just on me but also on the things around him. With make-up or not, all dressed up well or having a bad hair day, he’d still say I’m beautiful and he would insist on that. He would often randomly stare at my face. I’d ask him why, he’d smile and either say “I love you” or “beautiful”.
You feel safe around him. You used to hate going to malls or other places, or going home late at night because you are overly paranoid that there are ‘bad guys’ around. But then, when he is with you, you are carefree and you feel guarded because you know he protects you.
I am always safe and secured in his arms. I’m not afraid to walk alone now because I have him beside me. That’s enough said.
You have fights and conflicts every now and then but it has never become unhealthy or toxic for you. You learn to forgive and accept everything about him. And the best thing is that, it makes your relationship grow much stronger.
This is true. We may have fights and misunderstandings, but we use them as something that will help us grow individually and together as a couple. As soon as we patch things up (usually just within the day), we discuss our realizations and learn from previous conflicts.
He shares his dreams with you. He tells you if he wants to take up Law or if he wants to enroll at a film school someday. He also lets you know his dream place to live in and the list of the destinations he wants to travel to. Somehow, this makes you feel a part of his future.
He believes in forever with you. He wants you to be the girl he will marry when he reaches the age of 24 or 25. He will do everything just to keep you in his life.
He’s really like that. He openly shares his thoughts about his passion to me, his plans for the future and his goals in life. Whenever he plans about the future, he’d always include me. He really said I’m a part of it and that I’m the reason why he made plans for the future, quoting him, “our future”.
You become a better person through him. No matter what kind of person you were, you feel like he has brought out all the best in you. He does not change the way you are. You are still the same person as you were when he met you, you have only become more amazing and a whole lot tougher.
“I love you not just for who you are but for who I am when I’m with you.”
Yes, I became a better version of myself since he came into my life. He’s someone so special to me that has not only brought me a bucket full of bliss in this tough ride of life but has also made a difference by helping me to believe in myself and to love myself more. Whenever I’m faced with challenges in life, I often get overwhelmed by negative energy. He would be there to divert all the pessimistic thoughts to positive outlook and he would always know how to calm my chaotic mind.
He brings balance, serenity and security.
We help each other become better persons. We change a bit of who we are or what we are because we choose to become better versions of ourselves. And I’m really glad I share that with him.
He effortlessly makes you love him more every day. You are happy and contented with whatever you have as a pair. You know that your relationship has its own flaws and can never be perfect, but who cares anyway? You love each other so much and it is the most important thing for both of you. Also, you can even think of a lot more to add on this list because he is just too awesome for you.
I don’t even know how to begin with…I’m not sure what exact words to use for me to explain how I feel in this relationship. But one thing is for sure, I am more than happy with what we have and how we are with each other. It’s not perfect and we’re both not perfect, but it’s the imperfections make us love each other more.
In the midst of a silent moment, I stared at his face. I gave him a smile as soon as he looked at me. I asked a silly question, “Why do you love me? Even if I get grumpy or moody” He said he loves a challenge and that from the beginning, I have always been that tough and he loves it. A challenge according to him motivates him. He answered the former question with certainty, “I love you more with your imperfections because it’s them that make you perfect”.
It’s the imperfections that will attest how sincere your love is for each other. You’ll know it is true when whatever circumstances you both face, you don’t give up on each other but instead you always find a way to work it out. It will be tough but you’ll know it’s worth the ride if you have someone so great beside you. It’ll be irreplaceable and you’d feel that in what seems to be a very big world, you’re both invincible. And hey, if it ain’t easy, it’s not worth it.
Happy 9th monthsary, my love and to more 25ths with you ♥
Our birthday salon treat for mommy yesterday :) Belated happy birthday, best mom in the world! All in one - friend, sister, chef, carpenter, gardener, plumber, driver, nurse, doctor, seamstress, teacher, etcetera! ♥ I love you, mommy! @roseniemont (at Salon De Rose - Ayala Center Cebu)
"Having a soft heart in a cruel world is courage, not weakness. "
June 15, 2014: Work
I remember saying that I already want to work so that I’ll have my own money. But during my 1st month at work, I realized that it’s indeed not easy to find money, no matter what job you have.
They say that no work is easy unless you love what you do. You get stressed out but at the end of the day, you have no regrets because you enjoyed what you did.
I on the other hand is not enjoying, to be honest.
It’s a tough job I venture with. You only sit down and take calls but you face a lot of challenges. Like in my case, I’m no good with multitasking, particularly in talking and navigating altogether.
They say working in a call center is easy. Whoever said that, I beg to disagree. It’s very stressful. Good thing I work with a day time account, how much more if I work night time. It ain’t easy-money. You take calls eight hours a day, listening to customers’ complaints, you solve their problems, plus pressure for compliance (you have to do this, not do that, etc). You basically catch people’s problems and solve them…unfortunately, not for yourself but for them and for the account’s reputation’s sake I guess. Imagine doing that 5 days a week. Easy for other people to say that it’s not hard, especially those who work in the industry for a long time. But I’m not like them, I have low tolerance when it comes to stress and handling problems, especially when I’m being forced to do something that I don’t like. It’s a lot stressful for me because I’m not happy with what I’m doing. At the end of the day, I don’t really feel fulfilled, which is a really bad sign.
I thought of leaving even if it’s still too early. I gave myself time to think over about it. The final week of training I remember was very tiring and I was so pressured to talk a lot. We’re all required to connect with the customer, which means we build rapport - it’s part of promoting advocacy and giving them the best experience. That part of the training helped me reach one of my goals actually, which is to develop my communication skills. It was very challenging to me because I know I’m no talker, I’m an introvert. But I have striven hard to come out of my shell.
You get a reasonable pay, a big one. You get paid depending on the measure of work you do. What I see so far, the salary I get is not worthy of all the pressure and stress I face and have to deal with. There’s just so much negative energy and my body - emotionally, mentally and physically can’t take up all of it at the same time. I remember breaking down in front of my boyfriend while I told him all my frustrations in the duration of training. I was in the verge of giving up. But he was constantly giving me hope.
At the end of the day, when you’ve left with no choice and you want to think positively, you force yourself or motivate yourself to move forward along with your goals - must save money for a dream to come true.
I hate to admit it but it’s a result of impatience. I wanted to get and save money fast so that I can reach my dreams of working in what I’m really interested at. I thought it will be an easy ride but it turns out it’s one tough journey.
I know I’ve made a mistake of getting myself involved in one tough industry. But forgive me if I test the waters. And mind you, it isn’t a cheap job. People who work there are good. I admire their multitasking, navigation and communication skills.
I’m just not certain if I can stay any longer.
I’m still young and it’s not like I have limited opportunities, right? Sigh.
Now I’m left with a question that keeps repeating on my mind…
Until when are you going to suffer from all this?
June 15, 2014: I wasn’t sure if I held a real gun but it certainly was really heavy. Haha. We passed by groups from military who were exhibiting their gears and weapons. And I was amazed by all of it. I can’t imagine how they bring all those in action or on field at war…I had so much fun trying them on. It was a nice experience - to be in their shoes for a bit by trying to put on their heavy stuff (and not to mention imagine I’m one of them. hahaha).
I salute all the heroes and all the people who work hard for their love ones or family. :) I’m in awe of your bravery and determination.
Happy father’s day, to my loving, firm, determined, simple and humble dad! Thank you so much for your unconditional love and for working hard for all of us. Thank you for your guidance and words of wisdom. I may not understand it sometimes, but I appreciate it. Thank you for giving us the reason to smile. And lastly, thank you for teaching us to be humble, to be ready in facing the realities of life and to be faithful to the Lord. I love you, daddy! ♥♡ @henmont
I went straight to @aljenaraneta’s house from work yesterday and cooked tuna pasta for the hungry man. :p And nope, there’s no ocassion. No need for it for a couple to celebrate love. Everyday should be like Valentine’s day. ;)
June 4, 2014: Broken trust
I never thought that someone so close or special to me can betray me. I have put so much trust in that person. Regardless of the reason behind the lie, “sorry” is never enough to patch up the trust that was broken.
I don’t like being lied to because I value the trust I give…I value it so much, especially when I give it to someone I dearly love.
It gives me really heavy load on my chest. I feel like I’m being dragged down. It’s heart breaking.
It hurts to find out that one of the sweetest people I know, whom I never thought would ever lie to me, could do that. It’s so surreal.
I want it to work out. I want to give it a chance but it’s just so hard to accept right now and go on like nothing happened because trust was crushed, regardless of how small the issue was as how the person might have thought since that person chose to break my trust than let me worry; we are supposed to worry with each other’s problems. We take the burden together and comfort each other. It should be a give-and-take thing, not going through the challenges alone because you’re both a team.
Heart broken. Upset. Hurt. A bit depressed.
Trust is so fragile. You might patch up the broken pieces, but it will not be the same again. Be careful not to break someone’s trust. Value it.